Comments on: Dear “Pregnant and Miserable”

By: Brenda

Brenda — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 16:51:45 +0000

Hello Ladies
I thought i was going crazy. I am not alone.
This is my third pregnancy. The first was easy except for the labor part (he is now 15). Had him at 21 years old.
The second had to be delivered by c-section because of gestational diabetes. She is now 3 and I had her at age 34. I am now 27 weeks pregnant and miserable. Gestational diabetes is back , I’m on a diet and hungry all the time. I have to eat crap while the rest of the family eat dinner. I cant sleep, I cant walk because my hips hurt soooo bad, not to mention the heartburn and the fatigue. I dont even go out in the yard anymore because i’m not sure if I’ll make it back to the house. I just look out the window and watch my 3 year old ride her quad around the yard. I cry alot because I cant do anything anymore and I feel so useless. This baby will be delivered by c-section too. I cant wait to get back to being myself. I will have the doctor do a tubal ligation because I dont want anymore kids. My husband, mother and teen son help alot with the 3 year old. I dont know what I’d do without them. Thank God for all of them and our new baby too. I cant wait to see her.

By: Sick Mama

Sick Mama — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 03:06:19 +0000

Sick, I am so sick. This website has made me feel better knowing that I am not the only one in the world suffering from this misery. I am 8 weeks along and the severe nausea started 3 weeks ago with the vomitting starting about a week and a half ago. I always knew pregnancy would be rough because I couldn’t tolerate birth control. I will never trust my husband again with “timing” things. Although I have always wanted children, this pregnancy was unplanned which is me being ridiculous because I am 25 and have been done with college and working in my career for a few years. I have an angel for a husband so I can’t complain. When we found out we were pregnant I felt like someone was making me divorce my husband and honing in on my territory because I don’t like to share him. Over the past few weeks I have come back to reality and I’m really really excited about the baby, except for the severe nausea/vomitting. I am already on IV therapy at home with not a whole lot of relief. I am 5′3″ and nearing 100 lbs (down about 9lbs from the start). I want a feeding tube so bad just so I could have some energy to bathe myself on a regular basis. I haven’t been to work for 2 weeks which because I can’t get out of bed. My husband brushes my hair, cooks my food and cleans our house. I have no idea how I am going to cope with this for another 7 months because I am mentally going crazy! They thought I had a blood clot today so I had to go to the hospital, I spent the rest of the day sleeping from my 60 minute outing. This will be the last pregnancy- my husband agrees we will be adopting the rest. I know there are a lot of people out there who would love to be in our miserable position, I have several friends and a sister who have severe difficulty getting pregnant, but I also think some of our bodies aren’t set out for pregnancy and maybe we should see it as God’s way of sparing us.

By: Sandy

Sandy — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 16:04:02 +0000

Hello…again. Yep…here I am pregnant and miserable…again. But this time I have real complaints! LOL

I am 36 weeks pregnant with my second. The first 10 weeks I had bad morning sickness to the point I could not eat anything. Then I hemorrhaged at 10 weeks and thought I was losing the pregnancy. After a couple of ultrasounds they found that I just had a low placenta that covered my cervix…but I was restricted in activities I could do, plus they put me on progesterone to stop the bleeding and to be sure I wouldn’t lose the baby. That made me even sicker where I spent most of the following weeks on the couch trying not to vomit…my poor son wanted to play with me so bad, but every time I sat up I was sick…

At 17 weeks I was able to stop the progesterone, but it still took a few weeks to be able to want to eat. The entire time up until then we were terrified the doctors were wrong and that we were going to lose our baby. Both of us were kinda detached for a long time “just in case” we lost the baby. Let me tell you, that is heart wrenching!

Then after our 22wk ultrasound we started to losen up, but I still had food aversions and had issues eating, but the Dr’s assured me all was fine as the baby was growing. But, I started having severe pains in my hips and back to the point I couldn’t walk. I still have that pain actually….

Then, after my 1hr glucose I had to have a 3 hr one…yep. Gestational Diabetes. Doesn’t sound too bad until you realize because of my food aversions and sickness I had been living off of things like crackers, ice cream, cereal and milk. No more for me! So that cut down on many things I could eat that would settle my stomach.

Now, I am just waiting for my csection date. Just a few more weeks. It will all be worth it in the end, I know…but I can’t help but feel sometimes that I wish it would be over sooner rather than later…at least I am at the last leg of the trip!

By: Michele

Michele — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 05:04:39 +0000

I am 39, and 35 weeks pregnant. I have a dughter who is almost 18! I did not want any more children, but a higher power had other things in mind. I found out at about 3 months that my Bf was married w/two small kids! Liar and a cheat, fooled a lot of ppl for many years leading a dbl life…snake! Anyway, here we are many weeks later and I am miserable. Not only am I feeling fat and bloated, but I am doing this alone, which was the one thing I swore I would go through again. How do I manage to raise another child as well as the first has turned out? I am so scared, and I feel so alone and totally betrayed! and to top it all off the baby has a deformity, although it is fixable, it is still shocking just the same. I am a strong woman, I have been through many, many tough times. I am also blessed for I do know there is an end in sight, 5 weeks lleft of not sleeping, and Siatica pain, back pain, endless crying, and incredible fear. And my daughter, who thank God has been just the most excited young lady you could ever hope for, she is astounding. I am ready to not be pregnant any longer, am I ready to be a mother to another child? That is the one ? that is haunting me daily, can you love as much the second time? It seems so very hard to imagine that feeling for another child, but ppl tell me it just comes natural, but…what if, just what if that doesn’t happen to me? It is a long road ahead, I better gas up and get a good atlas!!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 08 May 2008 16:10:44 +0000

Well, I was due last Wednesday and I can say this has been the worst experience of my life. I am soo miserable and it hurts to just “be”. I can’t lay, sit, stand, walk, etc to alleviate the pain and pressure. I googled “pregnant and miserable” and here I am. I am hoping that maybe I can post on here and come back and re-post after my son arrives to give the next person some sort of inspiration, however it seems impossible that I’m going to be happy ever again. I do love my son, already, but it is so hard to not be a miserable person…it seems to own me at this time. I started swelling at about 18 weeks…gained about 45 pounds, the doctor says he’s happy with it considering the water retention that I am experiencing…(and please, don’t somebody tell me that this can be prevented–maybe it can and if there is a next time, I assure you and myself that it will be different from the beginning). My heart-burn is so bad that I have to sleep sitting up. My hands have been numb and I haven’t been able to breathe since about 8 weeks. I was in a wedding about two months ago and I haven’t looked at one picture and it was hard for me to be super happy for my friend getting married b/c I, at the last minute, had wondered what I was doing when I committed to be a brides maid at 32 weeks!

So, you get the point…I am miserable…and INSANELY depressed–have been at least slightly depressed about the whole time. I envy my husband–he seems to flow through life…to work every day and I’m here feeling pain every single minute! I finally couldn’t work anymore after Monday…my job requires a lot of physical movement and I just couldn’t do it.

All in all….here’s hoping for a brighter future!